{"id":752,"date":"2008-02-20T18:19:15","date_gmt":"2008-02-20T22:19:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.alisonblogs.com\/wordpress\/index.php\/2008\/02\/20\/holding-things-in-check\/"},"modified":"2008-02-20T18:19:15","modified_gmt":"2008-02-20T22:19:15","slug":"holding-things-in-check","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.alisonblogs.com\/wordpress\/index.php\/2008\/02\/20\/holding-things-in-check\/","title":{"rendered":"Holding Things in Check"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>You know, despite all the therapy, medication, introspection, and self analysis, despite being older and wiser and having had all kinds of experience with all kinds of people, I still get these visceral reactions to certain things.  While being told something that gets me defensive and angry still causes a physical reaction as well, I can at least keep myself from saying or doing something in response that I might regret later.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s still hard, though, don&#8217;t you think?  You want to do something right away, whether it&#8217;s yell and scream, hide somewhere for a good cry, or give in to your juvenile side and dish out some snark.  And the whole time that you&#8217;re being patient, waiting for a response to your calm and rational counterargument, that inner child is pounding away at you, demanding something melodramatic.  <\/p>\n<p>I will let inner child out only when she&#8217;s ready to behave herself.  Right now she has to sit in the corner.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You know, despite all the therapy, medication, introspection, and self analysis, despite being older and wiser and having had all kinds of experience with all kinds of people, I still get these visceral reactions to certain things. 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